How Not To Beat Your Wife

Usipige mke wako, ye ata kutoroka. Or so goes a line in the song Tukatike by the famed Them Mushroom's band.

For some men, the situation is much grimmer. Especially for those who live in the west.

If you are in Kenya, chances are that you know of someone who beats his wife (or wives). Heck, I even know someone I went to school with who used to beat up his then girlfriend and still does so now that they are married with children. Only that the wife now fights back unlike before when she used never fought back.

Unlike in Kenya where a lot of women suffer silently under the heavy handedness of their men, here in in the U.S. the situation is different. Touch your wife and you find yourself on the wrong side of the law.

Unfortunately, even the law is not a strong deterrent for not beating your wife.

I know of this Kenyan fellow who moved here straight from rural Kenyan. And as they say, you can take a man away from the village but you cannot take the village out of a man. Unfortunately for his wife who is from the neighboring village, she endured through abuse until when she found out that domestic violence is not tolerated here.

No sooner than the bloke could say mwendwa wakwa mariru, he found himself in the hands of law enforcement officers. And before he knew what hit him, a court order was issued baring him from his home. And with a stroke of a pen he was made a refuge in the very same country that he sought refuge from the hardships of Kenya.

Unfortunately, the guy is not only unrepentant but there are other Kenyan men who will follow in his footsteps. Most of them will do so after they have taken one bottle too many of their favorite brew. Uninhibited, they turn their onto their wives.

While the men in Kenya can get away with such behaviours, the same can't be said in America. If you know that you are capable of beating your wife, don't do it. Even in a state of drunkenness, do not lose your cool.