Forty three years after the Civil Rights Acts was passed, one would be forgiven for thinking that racism would a thing of the past that is only taught in History classes to remind people of the struggles that America has gone through. A poll conducted last year by Opinion Research Corp. for CNN showed that most Americans, black and white, continue to view racism as a problem and they know people who are racist. The odd thing about racism, is that we only see it in other people but we fail to recognise it in ourselves and thus people are always quick to point an accusing finger at others.
When it comes to racism, Kenyans in the US fall into two broad categories. Those who have overcome the bondage/demons of racism and those who have succumbed to racism. The first group of people who have overcome racism are usually successful people, and if they are not they are on their way to being successful. As for the second group, I will not say anything about them.
To understand the people who have overcome racism, you have to understand racism. By and large, the US is still a white man's country. People can say anything they wish to say about the history of this country but if you go back to the roots of this nation you will see that it was founded for the white male to make a buck. Anyone else, including white women, were considered as personal property back then and it was only through the various constitutional amendments that this has changed. It is this culture that institutionalised segregation in the US and made it part of the fabric of the society for a long time.
Luckily for us living in the US today, a lot has changed and we are not subjected to the gross injustices that African-Americans had to endure then through no fault of their own. Instead, we are faced with mostly social discrimination and subtle racism. Even though most immigrants are aware that they will encounter discrimination at some point of their lives, how they react to it when it happens it makes all the difference as to what type of life they will lead abroad.
In my discussions with several successful Kenyans, the subject of racism came up and without doubt all of them had experienced it but what set them apart is that they were not bitter or vengeful about it. Sad they were, disappointed and disgusted, but none of them had allowed the burden of racism into their lives. Not that they had chosen to ignore racism and neither are they Uncle Tom's or Aunt Jemima's, instead they have made a conscious decision not to let the incidents affect their future.
In my opinion, there is no magic way of dealing with racism. How you deal with racist neighbours in the sub-division should be different to how you deal with racism when trying to flag down a taxi or discrimination in school. In general, the younger the person, the harder it is for them when it comes to dealing with discrimination. The older a person is when they immigrate to the US, the easier it is for them to deal with racism than it is for kids of immigrants who are growing up in the US.
As a parent, my greatest fear is not that my kids will be discriminated against but how they will deal with racism when they encounter it. For Kenyans parents in the US, it is important to make sure that they discuss it with their kids. Should they be discriminated against in school by their peers and they keep quiet about it, then they will internalize it to their detriment. I know of Kenyans, who moved their kids to a different school because of an incident in school. I don't intend on moving to a black neighbourhood because that is not a solution to the problem. I will just have to wait for that time when it happens and make sure that I guide them as best as I can through that trying moment.